I’ve been hearing lots of arguments for and against allowing transgendered people to use the bathroom or locker room matching the gender they identify with. However, in all the uproar over who can use which bathroom, there are two arguments that I haven’t heard yet – and both of them make sense to me.
First, many conservatives will argue that they don’t want men using the same bathroom as little girls. The obvious fear is that there are some men who would molest or otherwise sexually assault girls. But what about all the men who molest young boys? Why is it perfectly okay to let men use the same bathroom as young boys? I never hear anyone counter with that argument, even though pedophiles victimize young boys at almost the same rate as they victimize young girls. People must feel that young boys are not as worthy of protecting as young girls are. But if you are serious about protecting all children, you should be in favor of separate bathrooms for men, women, boys, and girls.
Second, another prominent argument on the conservative side is that women shouldn’t have to share their bathrooms and/or locker rooms with a men, most of whom are sexually attracted to them. Good point, but since this whole premise is based on sexual attraction, something important is being left out. What about heterosexual men like myself, who have to share bathrooms and locker rooms with gay men? How is that fair to us? And how about the straight women who have to share their private spaces with lesbians? To alleviate this problem, we should either set aside special bathrooms for gay men and lesbians, or we should force gay men to use the women’s bathroom, and lesbians to use the men’s bathroom.